May 2017

I understand that life can be unpredictable, and that’s why I never get upset if you have to cancel, even if it is the day of our scheduled meeting. Actually, I always require a same-day confirmation, just in case something comes up, you happen to forget we have an appointment, or you just get cold feet (it happens!). This way, it is easy for me to make other plans for my day without getting upset or being inconvenienced that your life got in the way of our meeting.

However, expecting me to make myself available with just a couple hours notice? No way. Maybe your day opened up unexpectedly, but I simply don’t have the luxury of sitting around waiting for a phone call or booking form.  If I had to wait around for spur of the moment bookings, my life wouldn’t be very happy or productive, and I would have completely moved on from this business by now.

I wear many hats- daughter, sister, student, partner, lover, friend, professional… you get the point. My life is full, and this world is just a tiny piece of it. When you see I am traveling, I am not “touring.” My personal life and outside adventures take me to different cities, and I like to meet some friends while there.?

Occasionally, I can make myself available for a same-day meeting if you let me know in the morning (morning means before noon. That’s actually what morning means). But the truth is, the little bit of free time I have for these extracurricular activities is so limited that it goes quickly. It is not unusual for my schedule to be full days, and occasionally weeks in advance.

If your schedule is always hectic/last minute, then take the time to get prescreened so that screening is already out of the way when you are able to meet. It is nearly impossible to get screened AND booked last minute.

Take the time to plan ahead, and I promise I’ll do my best to make our time together unforgettable.

And neither is kink or fetishism.

For that matter, only a small part of BDSM as a whole is about pain, and I’m not really sure where this widespread perception that kink is all about pain came from. Is that how mainstream media portrays it? I’m way too deeply involved in the kink world to know if this is the case, but if it is- don’t believe everything you see on TV!

Kink and BDSM have become blanket terms for acts of sexual expression that fall outside the perceived sexual norm. People engage in kinky activities for a variety of reasons, but it’s the desire for connection, intimacy, and pleasure which mostly drives them, not pain.

So what is Bondassage about then? Watch my bondassage video here. Or, read on…

No doubt, you’ll get a different answer depending on who you ask, and no two people approach Bondassage the same way. For me, Bondassage is about embodiment and the exploration of physical sensations. Some techniques, such as bondage and sensory deprivation are borrowed from BDSM as tools to enhance pleasure and presence. As a Bondassage practitioner, my desire is for you to completely let go, and allow yourself to be open to new experiences, both physically and mentally, as being bound and surrendering control can have an enormous mental component.

If you have a huge hang up around being bound or blindfolded, then bondassage is not for you.

If you’re truly open to new experiences and want to relax while someone else takes control of your pleasure, bondassage can be a wonderful experience.

If you are still feeling like you are not getting a straight answer as to what bondassage is, that is because each session is different, and truly crafted for the individual. I goal is to read your body, and let your responses dictate where we go next- so don’t be a dead fish!

In a sense, bondassage is BDSM-lite, which makes it great for people who feel ready to explore kink, but do not know where to start — I love introducing newbies to the dark side!

For a peek into bondassage, take a look at my video, but remember — it is just a teaser of one possible scenario.

I am frequently asked, “What is Edging?”

Edging massage is one of my absolute favorite sexual activities, and I am utterly delighted to have discovered how many people are curious about it! There are many ways to explore edging, and it is a great introduction into erotic power dynamics (if that sort of thing appeals to you). For me, edging is all about tracking and controlling the arousal of someone else. Arousal is a potent physiological state, and I obtain a remarkable high when experiencing another person’s slow climb into a state of unprecedented arousal. The increased heart rate, flushed skin, erratic breathing, and ecstatic moans feed my erotic appetite… I could revel in your arousal forever.

But What IS Edging?

Edging is a sexual technique sometimes referred to as “peaking,” “orgasm control,” or “surfing.” It involves prolonging a high arousal state, without reaching orgasm. This high arousal is reached by slow bringing one to the “edge” of orgasm, but backing off just prior to release. By skillfully “surfing” near orgasm using this technique, a high arousal is stretched out over an extended period of time. The result is a build-up of powerful sexual sensations, which can induce a highly pleasurable, euphoric state. People often experience changes in perceived consciousness when in this state, reporting feeling of transcending space and time, as if they have fallen into an erotic trance. In addition to this euphoria, when orgasm is finally allowed, the physical experience is exponentially more intense and pleasurable, due largely to the intense physical demands of remaining in a state of high arousal, coupled with the accumulation of sexual tension.

There are a few commonly seen uses of edging, as orgasm control lends itself quite well to BDSM practices.

“Tie and tease” is the coupling of edging with bondage. This can be a physically, and psychologically intense experience, as sexual tensions, and frustrations are further exacerbated by the helpless of being in bondage.

“Tease and denial,” also referred to as “orgasm denial” is essentially edging without any release. Orgasm denial is a great way to establish, and exercise control over someone. The intense arousal and psychological need that can be cultivated with orgasm denial often helps one to enjoy intense feelings of erotic submission, and surrender. Orgasm denial can be taken one step further, into chastity… but that’s a topic for another time.